What exactly does it mean to be equally yoked?
Mike: It seems like we said many of the same things. I guess that means we’re equally yoked!
Cass: My first thought was 'that's my hubs'! I love when we're on the same page. Only he tends to make things sound much prettier than I do.
Believing in the same religion is simply the first checkpoint of being equally yoked. The true importance lies in how a person’s beliefs, values and passions impact their lives, because it will inevitably impact yours as well. (Mike)
Mike: Being equally yoked only becomes a serious consideration or concern when you get serious about your relationship with God. It's more important than any relationship you have on earth, so whoever you join your life with should support that. It’s not about finding someone who is perfect, and you don’t want an exact clone of yourself (because that would be “perfect” right?).
Don't think of being equally yoked as a tit-for-tat comparison. Take the focus off the word equal, and replace it with balance.
Sometimes you may get weak, so that person on the other side of the yoke is there to help pull you up. There may be other times when you’re in the position to provide the support your spouse needs. The key is to be heading in the same direction when that happens, because the goal is to honor God as you grow to be more like Christ.
Cass: I'll say it again HAVE FAITH. I know the dating game can get super discouraging and you might be tempted to settle. Just don't. A crappy, or even good, relationship might look better than no relationship at all but you'll be kicking yourself once the shine wears off.
If you ask the tough questions sooner rather than later you won't be as emotionally attached. If you're not as emotionally attached you'll be less likely to make excuses or justify answers that don't mesh well with your own. It's tough at first but once you get the hang of it you'll be asking questions left and right.
In the meantime, make sure you dedicate some serious time to personal growth. It's important to be as good of a catch as who you hope to attract. (That's kind of the point of equally yoked…it goes both ways.)
Also make sure not to put your dreams on hold while you wait. Your life doesn't start once you become one half of a couple it's already in progress and you are the only one responsible for turning it into something you love.