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Idle Talk

One of my sweet friends recommended that I "spotlight" this blog post by Kristen Dalton Wolfe on #gossip. Since my life is all over the place with wedding, moving, and general start of summer plans I was happy to oblige. Thanks girl!
Recently, I was with a group and felt myself being unusually quiet. I was trying to stay engaged, but I felt completely disinterested and…bored. 

The group was talking about people and recounting stories of their past that weren’t exactly flattering. Some of the subjects of conversation were actually people who have hurt me in the past. Let’s be honest, it feels satisfying when people don’t like someone who hurt you. But I actually sat there feeling bored, checked out and gross.  What had come over me?
When I got home that evening, I reflected on this change in me. I’ve been praying that I would grow in love and loving people well in 2016 and I felt really excited to have lost interest in gossip. In my time with God, I was like “yay! aren’t you proud of me? I didn’t participate in that conversation!”
His response was, “Yes, but you also didn’t stop it.”
Sitting there silently in the middle of idle chatter and gossip made me just as guilty. It was awesome to have had the breakthrough, but I needed to take it a step further and call it out.
We all know that gossip is wrong, hurtful, harmful and divisive. So why do we itch to do it? What is our fascination with highlighting the offenses in others?  I don’t think just knowing gossip is wrong will change us. There has to be something more. It has to be deeper than that.
The root of gossip is fear of people, feeling threatened, a lack of trust in God, a need to be right or validated and a need to control. There may be times it’s not necessarily mean spirited or negative, but it’s unproductive and not uplifting.
Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler. Proverbs 20:19

Our interest in gossipping or discussing people is directly correlated to our identity.

We may know consciously that we have a royal identity, but has our subconscious mind had a revelation in that?

We are heavenly creatures, seated in heavenly places with the mind of Christ. We are co-laborors, daughters and queens. When we get full revelations in who we are and the more we choose our royal nature, we lose interest in topics that aren’t meaningful, noble, excellent or praiseworthy.

A queen knows her inheritance, she knows who their Father is, she knows she is secure in Him. Queens don’t know feel the need or even have time to talk about people or offenses. They are too busy going about the Kingdom’s business.

A pauper doesn’t know if there will be enough, she doesn’t know who her Father is. Paupers compete and compare because other women pose a threat to them since they live in a paradigm where they aren’t loved and there isn’t enough.

Check out this chart to see which you’re relating to.