So, I have a friend…this isn't one of those "I have a friend" stories that's really about me. I literally have a friend (and we'll get to me in a moment) that extremely dislikes this girl. Just the mention of this girl's name causes her face to turn red and her lips to tighten. While I understand with my mind why she feels this way often times it's hard for me to empathize because the girl that causes so much anger to brew in the heart of my friend is one of the nicest people I know. She has tried to make amends and get to a point where their relationship is more than evil stares and forced niceties but my friend is hearing none of it.
Sometimes we live in a state of offense.
We allow people to ruin our day or destroy our relationships because we harbor resentment for them. Now I'm not judging my friend because I have a couple people in my own life that I'd rather not be around. I've thought "girl I see through you like a cheap top" when people have tried to befriend me too. But I had to learn to love. It's all a matter of perspective. When you assign motives to people you set yourself up to be angry or hurt. And you know what? Those people that just make your blood boil; they're fine for one of two reasons. Reason one: they were genuinely being nice but you were too caught up in your feelings to realize it. Or reason two: they're evil soulless creatures that get nothing but joy from the pain they're causing you.
Ok so reason two was a bit extreme but seriously either people have no idea that they're offending you or they're doing it on purpose and you're letting them win by being offended. In either scenario the only person you're hurting is yourself. Remember that God will judge their actions.
Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. Therefore “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.” Romans 12: 19-20 (NKJV)
Also remember that you are accountable for your reactions. No matter how justified you feel they are. So choose to respond in love assuming the best of people. You might be surprised to make a friend or you might have the pleasure of thwarting the evil girl's plans for world domination! Either way love is the only scenario that allows you to come out on top. Think about it and try it out.