We all have those people we don't like. For some reason or another everything they do gets under our skin. Any joke they make is instantly unfunny and stupid simply because they made it. When I come in contact with those people in my life I can sometimes become a mean girl. Not the type that will compliment your skirt and then turn around and say it's hideous as soon as you leave but the type that will not speak and if someone does manage to get words out of me they're usually rude or cutting.
This is the one area of my life where it's been really hard for me to show grace. My pride is screaming "I'm right, my actions are justified" while the Holy Spirit is urging me to "love like Jesus".
Recently, I was reading a devotional on anger on YouVersion. One day of the study reminded that we need to continually be in prayer over the temptation to stay angry with people or over situations. As I prayed I said something along the lines of "I feel contempt for *insert names here*" and then I stopped. I often use or think words that sound appropriate but aren't always what I really mean so I quickly googled the definition. As I read the first line that included the words mean, vile, worthless, disdain, and scorn I grew excited because that's exactly what I meant to express. However, when I got to an alternate definition that stated 'willful disobedience to or open disrespect for the rules...' I was reminded of Matthew 5: 21-22:
As you know, long ago God instructed Moses to tell His people, “Do not murder; those who murder will be judged and punished.” But here is the even harder truth: anyone who is angry with his brother will be judged for his anger. Anyone who taunts his friend, speaks contemptuously toward him, or calls him “Loser” or “Fool” or “Scum,” will have to answer to the high court. And anyone who calls his brother a fool may find himself in the fires of hell. (The Voice translation)
It's easy to lose sight of why we shouldn't be "mean girls" when we base our responses on other people's actions (or inactions). However, when we take the time to stop and considered that we have been commanded by the King of all kings to control our reactions and to respond with love the need to be right or feel justified somehow just doesn't measure up. We are daughters of that King and thus are called to a higher standard when it comes to relationships, even with difficult people, because we are not just representing ourselves but our Father and His kingdom.So next time that person that knows how to push ALL your buttons comes around don't channel your inner Regina George. Instead remember that you are a princess and act accordingly.