Meet Lexie | Though she be but little, she is fierce!
Are you an early bird or a night owl? Night Owl.
Describe your perfect day… Autumn day with sunshine and a cool breeze, leaves changing colors, football tailgate and sweatshirt and shorts weather.
What's the best advice you've ever received? Ummm? "Nothing is a waste of time. If it didn't bring you what you want, it taught you what you don't want."
Hi! I'm Lexie and I am so pleased that Cass, my old roomie and one of my favorite ladies in the world, asked me to be a part of her blog this week. To be honest, I didn't even know that she had started a blog so you can imagine my surprise when she reached out to write a guest post. A little about me. I am originally from Indianapolis, met Cass the year I lived in Atlanta, and moved to Dallas two years ago for my job. I work in sports so naturally Cass and I have a lot in common. When she asked me to write a musings post, I was a little lost on where to start and my first reaction was "Oh man...I don't know if I have time to do that. I have so much going on this week. What would I even write about?"
And then it hit me.
Rather than getting super pumped about contributing to one of my friend's hobbies, my initial response was to worry about how much I have to do and how much time I don't have. I realized that it would be incredibly disappointing to turn down an opportunity to do something I love (write) and work with someone I love (Cass) just because of my crazy schedule. So I texted Cass back while stopped at a red light (DON'T text and drive, folks) and asked her if I could write about work-life balance.
We all have a lot going on, whether it is school, work, extra-curricular, family, friends, or relationship related. Inevitably, stress comes with all of these things. It's important to know when to say yes and when to say no. It's important to fulfill your tasks and promises. It's important to excel and work hard at school and work and hobbies. But it's equally important to take a break from the grind of obligations and actually enjoy life and make yourself and your health and happiness a priority.
I often struggle with the ability to leave work at work and to be present in situations where I should take in the experience, so I have to make a conscious effort to take breaks and do things for myself. It's easy to get caught in the trap of saying "I don't have time" or "maybe next week" or "okay, once I'm finished with this". Here are a few ways I attempt to find balance in my life:
1. Turn off and/or put away my phone. I leave my phone in my purse when I am with friends or spending time with my family. This is an easy way to be sure that I am fully present when I am with the people I care about most.
2. Make to-do lists. Each day before I leave work, I make a short list of things I need to tackle the next day. This helps me feel better about the fact that when I get in the next morning, I know where to start and it also relaxes me to visually see that there are only a few projects I need to get through. I also cross off all the things I did earlier that day so I feel great about my productivity and don't feel guilty about leaving.
3. Create special experiences. My fiance and I cook dinner together at least a few times a week. While we are cooking, we talk about our day and about things we need to do. After dinner, we just hang out and enjoy our time together.
4. Find some ways to relax. I love doing little things to remind myself not to take the small stuff for granted. Lighting a candle, taking a walk, calling a friend. These are all things that put a smile on my face and put things into perspective.
5. Stay organized. I always feel more at ease when my room is clean, my planner is up to date, and I have my outfit planned for the next day. I know it sounds silly, but this eliminates small stressors that hang over my head for no reason at all!
Finally, and most importantly, I try to say yes to things that sound beneficial or fun and no to things that sound overwhelming. I try to prioritize what is a necessity and what can wait. It's easy to say yes to others and to ignore what we need to do to keep ourselves happy and balanced. When you're not sure if you have time or if you should say yes or no, pause and ask yourself if it is a.) necessary or optional b.) enjoyable or stressful c.) a small or large undertaking. And then make your decision and don't feel guilty about whether the answer is yes or no! "When you say yes to others, make sure you aren't saying no to yourself." -Paulo Coelho